Hydrate
Drink water normally throughout the day and arrive comfortably hydrated.
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BEFORE YOUR SESSION
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Before Your Session
A preparation guide for online and in-person private sessions with May Gonzalez.
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Your experience begins before we meet. Preparing your body, environment, attention and intention can help you arrive more grounded, comfortable and available for the session.
CHOOSE YOUR SESSION
How Will We Meet?
Some preparation applies to everyone. Other details depend on whether your session is online or in person.
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PHYSICAL PREPARATION
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Preparing Your Body
You do not need to follow a perfect ritual. The intention is simply to arrive comfortable, clear and present.
Eat Lightly
Choose nourishing food and avoid arriving immediately after a very heavy meal.
Alcohol & Drugs
Please arrive sober. Alcohol and recreational drugs can interfere with awareness, communication and your ability to participate fully.
Caffeine
If caffeine makes you restless or overstimulated, consider reducing it before your session so that relaxation comes more easily.
Medication
Continue prescribed medication according to the guidance of your healthcare professional. Please disclose relevant health information before bodywork.
Smoking
If possible, avoid smoking immediately before the session, particularly if it makes relaxation, breathwork or body awareness more difficult for you.
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MENTAL & EMOTIONAL PREPARATION
How You Arrive Matters
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Relax
You do not need to understand everything before the session begins. Allow yourself to arrive with curiosity and openness.
My work may draw from different embodied, contemplative and Tantric perspectives depending on the session, but you do not need previous knowledge of any of them.
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Be Willing to Communicate
Questions, uncertainty, nervousness and curiosity are all welcome. Communication allows the session to respond to your actual experience rather than an assumption about what you should need.
You are encouraged to speak whenever something feels important, unclear, uncomfortable or meaningful.
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EXPECTATIONS
Come Without a Performance Goal
Expectations can limit the experience.
People sometimes arrive hoping for an immediate energetic breakthrough, release of longstanding patterns, profound emotional transformation or an extraordinary orgasmic experience.
These possibilities should never become a performance requirement. Every body, nervous system and personal history responds differently, and a meaningful experience does not have to look dramatic.
There is nothing you need to perform. Your only task is to arrive.
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BODY · SENSATION · AWARENESS
Energy Awareness in the Body
Sensations of energy, pleasure, warmth, tingling, expansion, emotional movement or deep relaxation can vary considerably from one person to another.
Some experiences may feel immediate, while others develop gradually through body awareness, practice and repeated exposure to new ways of sensing.
Rather than comparing your experience with someone else's, we work with what is genuinely present in your body.
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ONLINE · PRIVATE 1:1
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Preparing for Your Online Session
Your environment becomes part of the experience. Create enough privacy and space to participate freely.
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Be in a Comfortable Environment
Choose a quiet, private and comfortable space where you are unlikely to be interrupted.
You may choose to light candles, use incense, take a shower beforehand or arrange your environment in a way that feels meaningful and intentional.
Avoid busy common areas where other people may pass through. A private bedroom or similarly protected space is often more suitable.
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Check Your Internet Connection
A stable internet connection helps us avoid unnecessary interruptions. Test your connection before the session begins.
If your chosen room has weak coverage, consider another private area with a stronger connection.
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Be Willing to Talk
Online sessions can initially feel unfamiliar. You may not know exactly what to say or where to begin.
That is completely fine. We begin with conversation, and you are welcome to share what has been present for you — whether it concerns your body, sexuality, relationships, emotions or simply how you are feeling that day.
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Camera & Audiovisual Communication
Please be prepared to use both camera and microphone on your computer or smartphone. A live audiovisual connection allows for clearer communication and greater presence.
Sessions are not conducted through text messaging. If you are uncomfortable using your camera for any reason, please discuss this with me in advance.
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Give Yourself Time
Avoid scheduling another obligation immediately after your session whenever possible. Leaving a little space afterwards can support reflection and integration.
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IN PERSON · PRIVATE 1:1
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Preparing for Your In-Person Session
In-person work begins with safety, communication and a carefully prepared environment.
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THE ENVIRONMENT
The Ritual Space
The environment is intentionally prepared to encourage rest, presence and privacy.
Soft light, candlelight, calm music and a warm atmosphere help create a transition from everyday activity into a more attentive relationship with the body.
For bodywork sessions, appropriate massage products and other practical materials are prepared beforehand.
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YOUR SESSION
Every Offering Is Different
An in-person private session is not a standardised sequence applied identically to everyone.
The exact structure depends on the offering you have chosen, your intention, your boundaries and what is appropriate within that particular session.
Please read the dedicated page for your chosen offering before attending so you understand its specific purpose and format.
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QUESTIONS
More Information
You do not need to arrive knowing everything about the session. Questions are welcome.
Before beginning, there is time to clarify the practice, discuss your intention and establish consent and boundaries.
If you have received preparation material or an information booklet, please read it beforehand and bring any questions with you.
THE SESSION JOURNEY
What Happens When We Meet?
The precise practice varies, but the foundation of each session follows the same principles.
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Arrival
Time to settle into the space.
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Conversation
Questions and relevant context.
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Intention
We clarify what matters today.
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Consent
Boundaries are established clearly.
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Practice
We move into your chosen session.
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Integration
Time to ground and reflect.
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AFTER THE EXPERIENCE
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Physical & Emotional Integration
A session does not necessarily end internally the moment our scheduled time ends.
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PHYSICAL
Listen to Your Body
After embodied or body-based work, you may simply feel relaxed, energised, tired, reflective or more aware of physical sensations.
Hydrate normally, eat when you are hungry and allow yourself rest if that is what your body asks for.
Concerning, intense or persistent physical symptoms should not automatically be interpreted as part of an energetic process. Seek appropriate medical advice when needed.
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EMOTIONAL
Allow Feelings to Settle
Embodied work can sometimes bring feelings, memories or insights into awareness.
You may feel peaceful, emotional, contemplative, energised or completely ordinary. There is no emotional response that you are required to have.
Give yourself permission to observe what arises without forcing an explanation.
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CONTINUING THE JOURNEY
After Your Session
A session may be an important experience, but integration happens in the life you return to.
Give yourself enough space to notice what has shifted, what has become clearer and what you may want to continue exploring.
Practices such as conscious breathing, meditation, Yoga, journaling, body awareness or other forms of contemplative practice can support continued self-observation and embodiment.
You do not need to preserve a particular energetic state or remain “perfect” after the session. Integration is not about controlling life.
It is about developing greater awareness of your patterns, choices, body and inner experience over time.
One session can open a door. Practice is what allows you to keep walking.
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HEALTH & PERSONAL CONSIDERATIONS
Please Tell Me Before Your Session
Please let me know about injuries, recent procedures, pregnancy, allergies, significant physical limitations or other health information that may affect your comfort or participation.
Some body-based practices may need to be adapted or avoided in particular circumstances. Relevant information allows us to determine whether adaptations are appropriate.
Sessions are not a substitute for medical diagnosis, medical treatment or mental-health care.
SIMPLE PREPARATION
What to Have With You
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ONLINE
Water
Headphones
Journal
Privacy
Comfortable clothing
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IN PERSON
Comfortable clothing
Personal hygiene
Your questions
Relevant health information
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EVERY SESSION
Your boundaries
Your curiosity
Your intention
Your honest communication
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QUESTIONS BEFORE WE MEET
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Before You Arrive
A few of the questions people most often have before their first session.
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Do I need previous experience with Tantra?
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No. You do not need previous experience with Tantra, meditation, Yoga, somatic work or other embodied practices.
We begin from where you are.
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What if I feel nervous before my session?
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Nervousness can happen when entering an unfamiliar experience. We do not begin immediately with a practice.
There is time for conversation, questions, intention and boundaries first.
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Do I need to know exactly what I want?
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No. Some people arrive with a very specific intention, while others arrive with curiosity, uncertainty or a feeling that something deserves attention.
We can clarify the intention together.
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Is orgasm expected during a session?
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No. Orgasm is never a requirement or measure of whether a session was successful.
The work is centred on awareness, embodiment, sensation, presence and the intention of the particular session rather than sexual performance.
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What if my body becomes aroused?
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Arousal can be one of many natural body responses in work involving sensation, awareness or touch.
It does not create an obligation, change the boundaries of the session or require any particular outcome.
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Can I change my mind during the session?
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Yes. Consent remains active throughout the session. You may pause, ask a question, request an adjustment or change a previously expressed boundary.
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What should I wear?
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For online sessions, choose clothing that allows you to feel relaxed and comfortable.
For in-person sessions, arrive in comfortable clothing. Any details specific to your chosen practice are discussed before the session begins.
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Can I attend after drinking alcohol or using drugs?
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No. Please arrive sober and able to communicate clearly, make decisions and participate consciously.
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What if I have a health condition?
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Please disclose relevant health conditions, injuries, pregnancy, procedures or limitations before the session so that we can determine whether adaptations are needed.
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What happens if I am late?
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Please be ready at the agreed time. Because private appointments are scheduled individually, arriving late may reduce the time available for your session.
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PREPARATION · PRESENCE · EXPERIENCE
Your Session Begins Before We Meet
Preparation is not about doing everything perfectly. It is simply a way of creating enough space to arrive with presence, curiosity and clear communication.